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Romancing Yourself
Romancing Yourself
Since it is the month of love, it would be remiss of me not to do a blog on romance. Whether you are in a relationship or not, this applies equally to you, as everyone should be romancing themselves.
Do you like spending time with yourself? Do you treat yourself the way an attentive lover would treat you? I am guessing not really. A lot of us look to outside of ourself to be treated with kindness and love and when we do not receive it, we feel less than or neglected. But you don’t have to feel that way if you treat yourself as your own best friend and lover. I am going to give you a few tips on how to do that.
How do you romance yourself?
Love is such an amazing emotion to create in your life and it should not just be in February, but right through the year. So how do you romance yourself? Think of having this amazing, curious love for yourself and add romance to the mix and add some action too.
How will you treat yourself and your life?
How about waking up excited to love yourself as if you were waking up to a new lover? It is the difference between jumping out of bed and rushing to get ready for work as opposed to getting out of bed, making a cup of coffee to savour, taking the time to journal and dressing with love and care. See the difference, feel the difference here….
Firstly, you really need to love being in your own company. You need to love who you are when you are by yourself. Be curious about yourself, ask questions of yourself, about what you like and don’t like, what you would like to do and what kind of life you would like to have. Really fantasize about this, and go crazy with this, it is so fun.
Secondly, the next fantasy is to imagine having a new love in your life, that feeling of excitement you get, looking forward to being with them and creating a new life with them. Recreate that feeling of excitement for yourself.
So create that future version of yourself in your mind and then act as if you were her, show up as her and dream as her and before you know it you will have become her.
Next is making romantic gestures for yourself. It could be anything you would like a lover to do for you. Buy yourself roses, run yourself a bubble bath, randomly have a glass of champagne, take yourself on a beautiful walk in nature, plan a romantic weekend away….
Lover in your life
If you had a lover in your life and you were madly in love with them, would you not want the best for them? Want the best for yourself, show up and do the best for yourself. You are just as deserving as any other human being of the best things.
So here are some questions to ask yourself to prompt you on the journey of self romance. Imagine your new lover calls you up for a date…
What would he be saying to you? That he can’t wait to spend time with you? He can’t wait to see you?
When he arrives at your door…
- Does he tell you how beautiful you look?
- Does he bring you some flowers?
- Do you stay home and have a meal?
- Do you go out to a fancy restaurant?
- Do you go for a picnic?
- Do you find a good lookout point and share a bottle of wine?
Imagination
Imagine that love and excitement you have generated, now do that for yourself, tell yourself you are beautiful and can’t wait to spend time with you, buy yourself some flowers and even add a love note for yourself.
Often what prevents us from loving ourselves is shame or hurt or unworthiness, but if you spend time with yourself these things will come up for you and the best and most loving thing you can do is to have compassion for yourself, like you would your lover or best friend. You would not say harsh things, but would rather be loving and comforting.
Lastly, I want you to write down all your crazy dreams and goals. Get curious about what you want and what you want to do. Get excited about life and what you can possibly accomplish. You have this one life, show yourself what you’ve got. So what if you fail, you tried, but what if it actually works out, would it not have been worth it?
Ok ladies, go romance yourself like the best lover in the world…and come tell me about it.
A
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