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HOW TO BE HAPPY
What is your definition of happiness? When you google happiness, this is what comes up…..”Happiness is that feeling that comes over you when you know life is good and you can’t help but smile. It’s the opposite of sadness. Happiness is a sense of well-being, joy, or contentment. When people are successful, or safe, or lucky, they feel happiness. … No one ever complained about feeling too much happiness.”
For me happiness is that sense of contentment & peace (most of the time), sprinkled with bursts of absolute joy, but most of all it is the acceptance of the not so good too. You cannot enjoy being happy if you don’t experience the opposite, you can’t appreciate the full force of it.
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Most people, when you ask them what they want and they say I just want to be happy. However, life does not work that way. It is a combination of good and bad, happy and sad. Our strife comes in when we think things should be good and we should be happy most of the time. And then when we are not happy all the time, we feel guilty because we feel we should be happy all of the time.
But we are human having a human experience and that comes with the whole spectrum of feelings. Also you do not want to be happy all of the time. You don’t want to be happy if you have lost a love one, you want to feel grief, admittedly it is an unpleasant emotion, but it is part of life.
If you supress even the not so good emotions, they will pop up somewhere else, like trying to hold a beach ball under water.
Life is on average 50/50
Once you accept that fact and are OK with things not always turning out the way they should, this adds to your happiness for some strange reason.
I hear a lot of people say they are afraid to feel too happy because the feeling doesn’t last and they expect to lose the feeling.
It is correct, you will eventually move onto another feeling, the trick is to really be present when you are feeling happiness and really enjoy the feeling. You lose out if you are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. Happiness is a gift to be enjoyed while it is there.
Another thing to remember
Happiness is created by your thoughts, nothing outside of you can do that for you. I know, hard one to wrap your mind around!
I can hear you list a host of things you think make you happy…but it is not that actual thing that makes you happy, it is your thoughts about that thing that creates the happiness for you.
Ladies, this is a wonderful thing! This means that you can create happiness for yourself by just changing your thoughts. Remember even when a “bad” thing happens, you can ask yourself some really powerful questions around it. What if nothing went wrong? What if it wasn’t bad? How can I see this as something happening for me? How else could I think about this?
By changing your thoughts around what happened, you can immediately change your emotions.
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You may want to feel bad or sad
Now again though, keep in mind, you may want to feel bad or sad about something that happened and that is perfectly fine to do. When you make this decision, you are doing it consciously, you are choosing it. So you are still in control of what you are feeling via your thoughts.
My next question for you is: What actions do you do when you are happy? What do you do? Perhaps you enjoy yourself, engage with others and relax in the moment.
Now typically though this feeling of happiness will not move you forward. It does not move you to create and get momentum, so it is probably not an emotion you will choose to take massive action in your life, you may then choose something like determination, desire, inspiration and so on. Just be aware that certain emotions have a purpose and that you can choose at will what it is that you want.
When you feel the emotion of contented happiness, you generally are more accepting of who you are and the emotions you feel. This can then lead to you being more open, loving and accepting of others. Because you are doing this for yourself you are able to hold that space for others.
So think which emotions you would like to create for yourself. Is it because you like the feeling or is it because it is the action you want to take to create a certain result.
Ladies, how do you think of happiness?
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