In order to achieve your goals and make a life worth living you will need determination, a need to achieve what you desire, grit, staying power.  If there is one thing I know that once a woman gets it into her mind that something is worth having, she goes for it.

If you are all in on your dreams and you have a “no matter what, I’m going for it” attitude that is where the magic happens, dreams come true, goals get reached.

Obstacles will come along to trip you up….not may….absolutely will, then you need determination to see you through.

The first secret to determination is your why.  Why do you want this goal?  Why is this important to you?  No ladies….I don’t know… does not work here…you do know why, think it through.  Your why needs to be big for you, it should move you, it should create excitement within you.  You must like your why.  In order to have that determination you have to have that inner passion of your why.

Can you just imagine if you put all your energy and determination behind one goal?  Can you imagine what you will create?

The next step is to determine what you need to learn and who do you need to become in order to get to your goal.  Everyone starts out as a beginner, don’t think that you can’t do something, you learn and the more you practice the better you get at it.  I think it was Malcolm Gladwell that said you become an expert by doing something for 10 000 hours.  Now you may not need to become an expert, you may just need to be proficient at something in order to achieve your goal.

Don’t be hard on yourself because you don’t know how to do something, rather enjoy the process in itself of learning, of using your skills to get to your goal.

Who do you need to become in order to achieve your goal?  You need to grow, sitting on the couch eating potato chips ain’t gonna cut it.  Being comfortable is not going to cut it.  Growth is uncomfortable and that is normal.  Don’t give up just because things are uncomfortable.  In fact, use it as a benchmark, if you are uncomfortable, you know you are growing.  I love saying…Bring it! I was made for this.  I can do hard things.  Try saying this…you will actually feel it in your body.

A lot of you get stuck in the confusion about how you are going to achieve your goal.  The great thing is if you just ask your brain it comes up with the most amazing answers.  This shows that you do know, at least the first step which leads to the next one and the next and before you know it you’ve done it.  Will you fail along the way, almost guaranteed, but then you know what does not work and you try something else that does.  This is all a process and you learn along the way….and you keep going.

Determination also requires a “no matter what” attitude.  No matter what I am going to do this thing.  You are going to hit obstacles and some of your plans are not going to work.  Don’t take that as a sign that you should quit, take it as a sign to double down and go for it.  Anything of value is worth the work, if it were easy, you would not value it as much and you would not grow.

The journey of this process is super important, it teaches you how to become the person who has achieved her goal.  Take winning the lottery for example, what kind of person would you be if you won the R10million as apposed to the person who earned the R10million?  If you didn’t have a wealth mindset to start with, you would probably squander or lose that lottery money quite quickly.

Achieving your goal does not mean that you will not have any more challenges, you may have different ones.  But setting goals and achieving them adds so much quality to your life.  What kind of life would you have if you said you were done…boring I bet.  Your life is meant to be lived, however messy it can get, this is how you grow and actually feel alive.

How much more fun would your life be if you knew where you were going, if you had dreams and achieved them, and you knew that no matter what challenges life threw at you, you could handle it with elegance.

So imagine if you cultivated determination to reach your dreams, what would be possible?  What greatness is waiting for you?

Thank you for reading ladies.  Please leave your comments below and also let me know what kind of topics you would like to hear more about.

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