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CHALLENGING SITUATIONS
How do you deal with challenging situations? For me, my tendency was to walk away and in some situations this has served me well, but not so much in others.
CHALLENGING SITUATIONS
How do you deal with challenging situations? For me, my tendency was to walk away and in some situations this has served me well, but not so much in others. Most of us tend to think that life should be all smooth sailing, but it most definitely is not. As I have mentioned before life is very much 50/50. You have to decide for yourself in any given situation if it is worth tossing or fighting for.
Your ego
Now let me warn you, your ego is going to want a say in this and you are going to want to walk away, but if you can get out of your own way and actually put some brain muscle behind it, you can figure a way through. This is by far the more authentic and honest way to go. Our ego’s want to protect themselves and feel outraged and hurt and that just does not get us anywhere. Actually admitting that you are wrong, or that you can see the other side and work together to figure something out is so much better for everyone involved.
Your flaws
This requires you to grow and acknowledge your flaws and learn a better way. If you walk away from challenging situations (those you have deemed worthy) you lose the chance to evolve and practice using your problem solving skills. Will it be fun? No way! Change and growth is super uncomfortable. You may even have anxiety and that’s ok. This is just your brain trying to keep you where you are. It does not mean anything has gone wrong.
Challenging Situations – My Diary
I remember when I was getting my diary edited and printed. The whole process was so painful at the time, I did not want to take the steps to get it out, but I am glad I perservered. At the time I did not know about thought work and that growing is uncomfortable, but I still continued because I really wanted to do it. It was such a proud moment for me when I finally held a copy of my diary in my hands and knew right then that the process was worth it. Now I know that you do things even if you are uncomfortable. Your why just needs to be big enough.
You grow
Every single challenge is there to grow you. And just when you think you have overcome one, you face another one. If you do not learn from the first challenge it will continue to show up in your life in different scenarios until you finally get the message. How do you know you are supposed to grow through this challenge? It was always meant to happen that way. Instead of thinking of it as a “why me?” scenario, rub your hands together and say “bring it on”! You will be so much more susceptible and open to growth and new ideas than if you pull the blankets over your head.
What lessons can I gain from this?
Ask good questions when you are in a challenging situation. How is this growing me? How is this working in my favour? What lessons can I gain from this? See how different you answers will be, you will actually move yourself forward and become a person who can handle challenges. When the next one comes around you now have evidence that you can overcome hard things or situations. You will have confidence in yourself that you can handle anything life throws at you.
If you are not afraid to feel uncomfortable imagine what you could do. Become a business owner….check. Ask someone on a date….check. Travel overseas on your own….check. Learn to fly a helicopter…check. You can feel uncomfortable and do it anyway. Don’t let a silly little feeling hold you back from having an amazing life. It opens so many doors to other wants you may have, because you are not afraid to feel.
Challenging Situation
One Christmas I decided to drive cross country to the coast with my autistic son, it took us 3 days with overnight stays, but we did it. Whereas before I was feeling dread, I had never driven so far on my own (without another adult), my son could only handle 3-4 hours in the car a day and all the other unforeseen challenges, like the massive freak outs he had when we stopped to use public restrooms with their noisy hand dryers and lost bottles….lol! Now I know I can do it and have no feelings of dread when faced with driving long distances.
What difficult situations do you have to face? How do you think they are leading you to be a better you? If you are feeling stuck, why don’t you reach out to me on hello@lliautism.net and we can figure it out together.
Till next week, ladies.
A
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