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Better over there
Why do we want anything? Probably because we think that once we get that thing, or do this thing, get the money, get the job, move there, become….fill in the blank, it will be better. Sorry to burst your bubble. It isn’t. Hear me out.
You have all heard me talking about the concept that life is 50/50. 50% is good and the other 50% is not so good. No matter where you are in your life this rule applies. Whether you have no money, this applies. Whether you have tons of money this applies. There are always going to be pros and cons to your situation or life.
Just think about having money and not having money as an example.
In not having money, you have certain worries. Perhaps you can’t afford a car, or certain kinds of food, or live in the place you would like to. There are some things you are not going to be happy about or wish you had, had you more money. On the other hand, having a little money means you have less stress about managing it, or someone trying to steal or people constantly asking you for money. See pros and cons.
Now if you had a lot of money, it gives you more choices in what you can do, where you can live and what car you can afford. With this comes a certain amount of freedom, but a lot more responsibility. Now you can afford to buy a house for example. With it comes having your bank credit position in a good place, managing your money to be able to make your payments, you have to take care of the maintenance on your house, pay levies, pay attention to security and the list goes on.
Better of there
So while it is 50/50, having more money does not change this balance. You may let go of certain problems while you do not have money, but create a host of other problems when you do have money. I say “problems”, because a lot of you will probably say, but it is better if you have more money. This may be so, but you have a lot more to think about now than when you didn’t have as much.
So if there is not better than here, why go out to create all these wonderful things in your life? Good question. The only reason we ever do something is because of the feeling we want. What? Think about it. Why do you want to have a lot of money? Freedom? You want clothes, shoes, a car, experiences, travel? Why do you want these things? Because of how you want to feel, right.
It’s crazy when you think about it.
So take your situation that you are in right now and think about where you want to be, what feelings are you after when you imagine yourself in that place? Come up with a few. Now why not feel those feelings now. All you need to do is change your thoughts about the situation or think a thought on purpose which will bring up the feeling within you.
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Hi, I’m Antoinette Porter, your hostess at Live Life Inspired where we will explore what is possible in your life. A life you can look back on and say, “Wow!! I did that!”
I am not saying never want for anything, or not go after your dreams, by all means do that. I want to encourage you to really make the most of your life. Just be aware of the reason you are doing these things. When I help my clients with their goals or big dreams, I always inspire them to come up with their why and we do a deep dive on their motivation. This is one of the secrets to keeping on track with following your goals, when you don’t feel like it or you hit some obstacles.
Remember there is nothing outside of you that will make you feel differently, all of your feelings are generated within you. This is good news, because now you can decide how you want to feel and start generating the thoughts in order to feel those feelings. If you are having a hard time changing your thoughts I encourage you to use the thought ladder. I spoke about it in the blog “Think new thoughts” Blog no 129. If you want to work on it in more detail you are welcome to email me.
What is your why for your current goal?
Till next week.
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