Are you too busy to feel?
How often do you take stock of your feelings? Unless you are a very emotional person who is super aware of your feelings, I am guessing most of us don’t pay a hell of a lot of attention to what is going on.
Are you too busy to feel?
Perhaps once in a while, something really dramatic happens, we lose someone we love, we have a break up, we have a health scare, which almost forces us to look where we are at.
Thinking what I need to do next
For me, I very much live in my head, always thinking what I need to do next, how to figure something out and I think a lot. Something happens and I think my way out of it, or around it or try to solve it. So I have to consciously step back and tap into my body and find out how I feel about what just happened. If you neglect to do this, it almost always pops back up down the line. And you kind of wonder where the emotion comes from, as it could be an insignificant event and you have a huge reaction.
The trick is to check in with yourself regularly and find out what is going on for you. Often something significant does happen and you are just not ready to deal with the wide range of emotions that come up for you. If you keep opening yourself up though you can deal with as much as you can and then kind of “stash” it until you feel strong enough to deal with a bit more.
Depends on who you are
Sometimes things will be easier for you to deal with than another person. It depends on who you are, your experiences and how you think about the things that happen to you. Sometimes we make a big deal out of things, while others shake it off fairly easy. Each person is different and each experience is different, which leads to each person having different feelings from another.
No emotion or feeling is wrong or better than any other. While we may like to experience some more than others, it is part of the human experience. What is for sure, is that life requires us to feel or it has a habit of making you. And the idea of the Universe making you feel is never what you want, this is almost always accompanied by some traumatic life event which you then have to deal with on top of everything else.
Believe me, you do not want to be too busy to deal with your emotions. You have to make time for yourself and your feelings. I really try and make an effort, each evening when I go to bed, to check up on myself. How am I doing? Is there a predominant feeling that comes up? How do I feel about the day that is almost done? Mind, sometimes I am too tired to do this and then make space for it in my daily meditation. I just do a quick check with how I am feeling. Armed with the feeling I can unpack it a bit later when I am more relaxed. The most important thing is to acknowledge your feelings.
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I think I mentioned before, that my son is non-verbal, but boy do you know when he wants or needs something. I have had to distinguish between the various shouts, screams, whining, crying as they are all for different reasons. Sometimes I just can’t tell and then I always tell him I can hear he is frustrated, angry or whatever emotion it is I see. This almost immediately calms him down as he now feels heard and his feelings are acknowledged. We should learn to do this for ourselves too.
Are you too busy to feel?
If you are too busy, at some point you are going to lose time when you are forced to deal with your emotions, you may get ill, break a leg, lose your job, lose a friend or whatever and you will have to take the time off to work through your emotions. Of course, these events may happen anyway, but you don’t have to deal with them on top of all the other emotions you have stuffed down.
So, do a daily check-in, find out how you are feeling. If all seems good, you are good to go, if not explore that feeling a little. Is it almost an once off or something you feel on a regular basis? If it is a regular occurrence, you need to spend a bit of time on it and when you are ready you can make a change.
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